Can Extra-Marital Affairs Be Justified?

Extra marital affairs! How common are they? Why do people resort to it? Is it solely 'coz of dissatisfaction in the relationship with their partner or it can be because you like to screw around or is it that you end up meeting someone much better than the one you've married? Ohkay, you must be getting confused why I suddenly took up such a risqué topic to write on Well, can't really elaborate a lot about it, but all I'll say is, last night, discovered a very close acquaintance of mine having a relationship what I can potentially call an extra marital affair. How I came into that conclusion crosses the scope of this post. This's just too public a place to elaborate on it. But, I'd just like to discuss the very issue, in general.

So, as I was asking...why do people resort to romantic relationships outside their marriage and in which cases? Some of the factors, which I felt might be possible, I've already mentioned before. Well, if it's 'coz the concerned person just loves to screw around, I'd say he/she is just obsessed with sex or maybe he/she doesn't like the same man/woman all the time to satisfy his/her carnal desires. Well, I don't really know if I can call this normal, by any standards. But what I feel is that the person needs a checkup, he/she needs psychiatric treatment. If you wanna differ on my theory, you're free to comment.

As for meeting someone better than the one you're already married to, I guess it has two solutions to it. One of them is, yes I'll use the word, compromise. If you wanna protect your family, if you wanna protect your relationship with your marital partner, you'll have to compromise. You'll have to remember that you're husband/wife loves you a lot and still feels that you're the best for him/her. It's grossly unfair to walk out on him/her. And the other solution, well isn't it pretty obvious? Walk out of your marriage and go where your heart calls. To some extent, I feel this's the best solution. 'Coz in both the cases, the other marital partner is gonna undergo through severe trauma when he/she gets to know the fact about their partners. But at least, for the latter, he/she will know that it's now over & over for good. In the former mentioned solution, there'd have been 3 people unhappy, in the latter, here's just one. But at least in the latter, the other partner too gets the freedom to search for someone more worthy, isn't it? I guess there's just one universal truth on which this whole universe runs, "Survival of the Fittest", what say?

Hmm...finally coming to the topic of being dissatisfied with your existing relationship and searching for solace in some place else. Well, even here, I think there can be two types of dissatisfaction in any romantic relationship - one being the emotional and the other physical. Does anything else strike you? Then do let me know. So, where were we? Yeah, dissatisfaction in the relationship. I feel, both the kinds of satisfaction are equally important in any kind of romantic relationship, isn't it? Ohkay, I understand that to some extent, it just might be justified if you resort to infidelity 'coz of not being satisfied with your partner, but still, I guess when you are in any sort of relationship, you should be true to it. Ohkay, you're free to culminate the relationship and start another afresh...but it's highly unfair on your partner to carry on two relationships simultaneously.

Am I even making sense? I'm sorry if I'm not. I'm just a hell lot disturbed with my discovery and the worst part of it all, can't even discuss it with anyone. I just so very much hope that my assumption's wrong. Boy, that acquaintance of mine even has a kid! And it's the kid that I'm thinking of, the most. Why do people resort to affairs? Why can't they just be happy with their own domestic lives? Will I ever understand the true reason? I don't know! Will infidelity ever be justified? I don't know that either!!

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