Physical distance in a Relationship


How much of physical proximity is required for two people in love? Is physical touch at all necessary for two people who are very much in love? Confused why I put up such a question? Well, then allow me to let you in with some facts. It's just that me & my girlfriend, Sakshi, stay thousands of miles away from each other. I'm studying out here in Jamshedpur whereas she's from Delhi. Anyways, coming back to the point, there have been loads of times when we actually felt the physical distance between us. There have been hundreds of times when we craved just to be able to touch each other, just to be able to spend some time looking into each other's eyes.

Now, don't you misunderstand me! While talking of the distance in a relationship, I don't necessarily mean sex. Of course, we aren't saints. But doncha think, just to be able to hold each other's hands, just to be able to hug each other once in a while when the other is down, means a lot in a relationship? I've talked about this to quite a few of my friends. Although a number of them feel that it does matter, "purists" feel that if it's "true love", the distance chouldn't create any problem. If it's "true love", talking to each other for about half an hour in a week should be enough. You shouldn't need anything else if both of you know that you love the other more than anything. Now, the problems that I face here is that I get perplexed everytime I hear "true love". Frankly, how would you know if your love is true or not? And moreover, in today's world, do you really think just the knowledge that the other loves you, is enough for a relationship?

Personally, I'd love to hold my girlfriend's hands as often as I can manage, I'd love to give her a bear hug everytime she's down, would wrap my arm around her waist while we're walking together. I'd even love to converse with her with just our eyes. Could've cut my left hand off just to have occassional dinners with her. Nothing can beat the appreciation on how the newest shirt, that you bought yesterday, looks on you. I feel these petty things go a long way to make a relationship memorable & worth dying for.

I'm not sure if I'm right or wrong in my beliefs. Neither am I sure whether Sakshi's gonna approve of this post. Yet I published this 'coz I wanted to know what others feel, I wanted to know what you feel about the point I raised in this post.

So, what do you say?

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9 Thoughts:

Sakshi

Wednesday, May 03, 2006 9:08:00 PM

Hmmm.. nice blog... seems ur not feeling tooo good about the whole affair...!!! Patience is a virtue.

PS Don make me a villain... i have never disapproved of ur blogs..!!!

Shayon™

Thursday, May 04, 2006 11:14:00 AM

Sweetie, I knw patience is a virtue. It's okay if physical proximity is not possible. What I'm against is the idea tht physical proximity is unnecesary.

And anyways, I didn't really want to mk u look like a villainess ;-) It's just that I wasn't sure if you might feel our privacy breached by this!

Love you!!

Shayon™

Thursday, May 04, 2006 11:14:00 AM

Btw, y doncha post your webpage address too while posting comments? That ways if someone else reads the comments, he/she might feel like visiting your page too, na?

Sakshi

Tuesday, May 09, 2006 9:37:00 PM

Read my blog... probably.. I thhink I have tried my best to judge our relationship.. I don knw..!!!

Love you(n that I know..!!)

Anonymous

Tuesday, May 30, 2006 10:18:00 PM

No new blogs??? Wats keepin u busy?

pragni~dreamcatcher~

Wednesday, May 31, 2006 6:54:00 PM

Distancew does matter.. but conquering that proves the love. And no relationship is easy to maintain.. long or short distance.

Shayon™

Thursday, June 01, 2006 11:13:00 AM

@Anonymous
Well...have been pretty busy, lately. Had ma pprs going on...n then ryt nw I'm in Kolkata. Shall be back to Mumbai on the 5th of June. I sincerely hope that I can come back to the blogging world then.

@Pragni
Hey gurl, wot a surprise!! Yeah, it's true that no relationship's easy to maintain...but then agn, somehow I always felt the long distance ones came too hard onto you. Especially when you have no idea when's the next the two of you are gonna meet!

hereicome

Saturday, June 03, 2006 3:10:00 PM

Hey sir,
im callin u sir since u r my senior.Best of luk for campus.
I statrtd readin ur blogs in april hols n find each 1 of them pretty intrstin.Just never quit bloggin.
Well,regardin ur abv artikl,i am in veri much in agreement with ur notions.

It is ok 2 hold one's hands,hug 1nce in a while n do things as such 2 make ur luvd 1 believe that u really care for them.There is nothin wrong if ur luvd 1 kums 2 know abt ur lovin nature.
But,what 2 do when sum1 u luvd so much ditches u afte playin or toyin with precious emotions for sum time!!!!!!!!

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Sakshi

Wednesday, June 14, 2006 1:50:00 AM

Hmmm.. seems like you have lots of fans,Sir...!!!
So this one is for your fan.. sorry dude.. i don know what happened to u n all... all I know is that when someone leaves you.. Its really hard... and its harder to accept the fact that that person was not meant for you.And once you realise that-You'll get over everything.
All The best.

N sweetu... please now that you are gonna have some time.. takin a brek from your hectic 14 hours schedule- You better strat blogging.
Love you